Valentine’s Day is just a few days away! What better time than to contemplate the secret to relationship success? Just last week, we learned how Chief Mom at VarageSale runs an award-winning startup and keeps the spark in her relationship. Today, we’re talking to her hubby!

The good sports that they are, both Tami and Carl happily agreed to answer our nosey questions—but neither of them knew that the other one was also taking part. So we were all kind of blown away when we read through their answers and learned that they pretty much see eye to eye on, well, everything!

Whether you’re considering opening a business with your spouse or simply need some inspiration in the romance department, this short and sweet Q&A with Tami’s other half is bound to give you a nudge in the right direction.

→For all the clueless hubbies out there: Check out how Carl craftily responded to the one question that could have gotten him into some trouble… 😉 (see question 2)


VS: Did you ever think you’d go into business with your wife?

Carl: Never. I don’t think we really realized we were “in business” together until almost a year later when things started to materialize. It was just a little project we were trying out at first and it quickly grew way beyond that!

VS: What are the top 3 challenges when it comes to working with the woman you love?

Carl: Keeping our life and our work distinct is very difficult. I think it’s fair to say that it’s impossible. So essentially, we end up talking about work every waking hour. Every day of the year.

Both working long hours and having a crazy schedule is very difficult to balance with “life.” We outsource most of what we can to help us navigate through this.

VS: What are the 3 best parts of working with the woman you love?

Carl: Let me think…

1. She’s the most trustworthy person I know. It’s great to have a business partner you can 1000% rely on. All the time.

2. I get to spend a lot more time with her than I would otherwise.

3. She understands the highs and the lows better than anybody else ever could. It’s impossible for people who’ve never run a startup to know what it’s like day to day. I get to understand her challenges better than anybody else and vice versa.

VS: Before you decided to open a business together, were you ever worried that it would get in the way of your relationship?

Carl: It’s definitely something we talked about early on and we agreed to never let it get in the way. I think we’re doing a very good job at it.

VS: How has your relationship with Tami changed since launching VarageSale together?

Carl: I definitely see a side of her I didn’t know before. I’m always amazed to see how she can be the best teacher in the world AND run a technology startup, like VarageSale—two things that seem like complete opposites.

VS: And, now for the question all of our readers want to know… How do you keep the spark in your relationship?

Carl: We have a mandatory one date a week rule. We are also extremely careful to always balance things. When our son Noah is around us, we don’t touch the computer and we focus exclusively on our family. We don’t want him to grow up seeing his parents on a phone or computer all the time. I think forcing ourselves to live this more normal family life helps not only us, but our business.

VS: Any tips for other couple entrepreneurs?

Carl: Set boundaries early on. Commit to your relationship over anything and always be extra careful to not let work get in the way. Make sure to enjoy the ride together and to frequently pause to look back on your situation. Always try to keep some healthy balance.

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2 replies on “The Secret to a Successful Startup (and Marriage)

  1. Good for you guys in setting boundaries and respecting your son’s needs. I think that is the hardest part in any work-life challenge. Sometimes we can get lost in what we’re working on that we forget about those around us. Congrats to you both and all the best with your business venture. Cheers, Ruth


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